We all pray for strength and healing, the journey can be tough but enlightening too.
I'm a two time stage IV cancer survivor (throat-base of tongue). Between my initial cancer and the metastasis my wife got breast cancer.
For me, and her, we both say it's harder dealing with the cancer of a loved one rather than dealing with our own cancer.
Platitudes don't help, though we try.
Writing was therapeutic for me, I hope it will be for you too.